Being a twenty-something is hard work. Scrolling through your news feed it seems as though everyone you’ve ever known is getting married, having babies or travelling the world. But why make it harder for yourself in comparing yourself to that girl who you barely spoke to at school? Here’s 5 things you should STOP being envious about, because it’s your life and you’ll live it the way you want…
1. Popping the question
At some point in your twenties you will notice a change in your social media feeds. They will suddenly go from photos of shots and drunk statuses to photos of ring fingers and kissing couples. But what do you do if you are still taking toilet selfies at 3am while the rest of the world seem to be getting hitched? It may look like every man and his dog are getting married but I can assure you, they are not. It just seems that way because you are focusing on their posts. And who cares if they are anyway?! You will get married IF and WHEN you are ready, not because there is an uprising epidemic of ring finger selfies on your news feed.
I love babies. I love everything about them, so it is hard NOT to get jealous when somebody I know announces they have a baby on the way. But it is best to reassure yourself that you are not ready for a baby and you are getting all of the experience of life while you can before you bring a little bundle of joy into the world and teach it all you know. And at least you can get lots of babysitting in for practice in the meantime!
3. NOT Being a student
This is a personal one for me. There’s nothing harder than seeing your little sister graduating before you and your even littler sisters starting university when you are still studying. At 25 I should have graduated a few years ago but i’m glad it has taken me longer. I have been able to gain work experience whilst studying part-time in my own time, giving me ‘valuable skills’ for my CV. Aside from this though, I have learned that everyone has their own path, and everyone travels down their path differently. For my sisters, an elegant glide. For me, a clumsy stumble.
4. Having a career plan
Again, it may seem like everyone has a plan set out by their mid-twenties but not every plan works out. If you are the sort of person that floats between jobs trying to decide what you are going to do with your life, you are at least gaining experience in different fields of interest rather than going for one set goal. Then if something doesn’t work out for you, at least you have other skills to fall back on.
This is one of the hardest things not to get green-eyed about. Seeing their photos and hearing their stories, you wish you were out there living the dream. Maybe one day you will but right now something is stopping you. Don’t let this get you down. Work towards a goal because if you truly want to do something, you will do it. Even if this means venturing out on little city breaks or country walks from time to time.
I am guilty of each and every one of these but I try not to dwell on them. If you focus on doing the things you love and you are passionate about, everything else will fall into place. Don’t compare yourself to others, they are not on your path and they do not walk (or stumble) the same way as you.