Month: October 2016

5 Things to NOT be Envious About

Being a twenty-something is hard work. Scrolling through your news feed it seems as though everyone you’ve ever known is getting married, having babies or travelling the world. But why make it harder for yourself in comparing yourself to that girl who you barely spoke to at school? Here’s 5 things you should STOP being envious about, because it’s your life and you’ll live it the way you want…

1. Popping the question

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At some point in your twenties you will notice a change in your social media feeds. They will suddenly go from photos of shots and drunk statuses to photos of ring fingers and kissing couples. But what do you do if you are still taking toilet selfies at 3am while the rest of the world seem to be getting hitched? It may look like every man and his dog are getting married but I can assure you, they are not. It just seems that way because you are focusing on their posts. And who cares if they are anyway?! You will get married IF and WHEN you are ready, not because there is an uprising epidemic of ring finger selfies on your news feed.



I love babies. I love everything about them, so it is hard NOT to get jealous when somebody I know announces they have a baby on the way. But it is best to reassure yourself that you are not ready for a baby and you are getting all of the experience of life while you can before you bring a little bundle of joy into the world and teach it all you know. And at least you can get lots of babysitting in for practice in the meantime!

3. NOT Being a student


This is a personal one for me. There’s nothing harder than seeing your little sister graduating before you and your even littler sisters starting university when you are still studying. At 25 I should have graduated a few years ago but i’m glad it has taken me longer. I have been able to gain work experience whilst studying part-time in my own time, giving me ‘valuable skills’ for my CV. Aside from this though, I have learned that everyone has their own path, and everyone travels down their path differently. For my sisters, an elegant glide. For me, a clumsy stumble.

4. Having a career plan


Again, it may seem like everyone has a plan set out by their mid-twenties but not every plan works out. If you are the sort of person that floats between jobs trying to decide what you are going to do with your life, you are at least gaining experience in different fields of interest rather than going for one set goal. Then if something doesn’t work out for you, at least you have other skills to fall back on.

5. Travelling


This is one of the hardest things not to get green-eyed about. Seeing their photos and hearing their stories, you wish you were out there living the dream. Maybe one day you will but right now something is stopping you. Don’t let this get you down. Work towards a goal because if you truly want to do something, you will do it. Even if this means venturing out on little city breaks or country walks from time to time.

I am guilty of each and every one of these but I try not to dwell on them. If you focus on doing the things you love and you are passionate about, everything else will fall into place. Don’t compare yourself to others, they are not on your path and they do not walk (or stumble) the same way as you.

Ryton Pools Autumn Woodland Walk

Yesterday I went on a lovely Autumnal country walk at Ryton Pools. The leaves were floating gently to the ground all around me and it was all very calm. I love walking at this time of year, here’s why:

  1. There are hardly any people around – who wants to go out in the cold, right?
  2. The colours are amazing! – so much more to see than in summer (including mushrooms!!).
  3. You don’t get hot and sweaty – nothing worse than rocking up to the pub after for that (well deserved) pint looking like you’ve accidentally fallen in the lake.
  4. You get to accessorise – who doesn’t love a woolly hat and scarf??

Don’t get me wrong, you need to be prepared for mud and the possibility of rain but that’s what makes it feel like an adventure.

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